Ten Tips to Save Your Marriage

Getting married is the easy part – keeping a marriage together is the hard part these days. With work, the kids, stress, soccer practice and homework, it tends to get hectic – so here are ten tips to keep your relationship comfortable, loving, caring one.


1. Make Time – Life is tough, hectic, and unpredictable. With all of the every day stress and pain, it’s hard to make time for one another. But everything seems insignificant if your marriage falls into pieces. You have to make the time to be together, to talk, relax, and reconnect. Make a point once a week to spend a night together, and make sure you never miss it.
2. Show Your Love – Show you love your spouse by giving gifts, compliments, or simply a tight, long, loving embrace every day. A little bit goes a long way, and even your work schedules conflict, or it’s been a long, hectic day, a sweet kiss and a few gentle words will make all the difference in the world. It may seem like something only love sick puppies do, but you know what they say, “The thing you did to get ‘em is the thing you do to keep ‘em.”
3. Don’t Nag – Some people think the more they tell the person to do something, the more motivated that person will be to actually do it, but in relationships, often it’s the opposite. Telling your spouse to do something just before they go to bed and just after they wake up, and all hours between, will not make the person want to do it more! Gently remind your partner about something, but nagging and repeatedly asking will not do anyone any good.
4. Keep the Romance Alive – With many marriages, the heavy load of family, work, and stress makes it hard to keep romance anywhere near. There are small, meaningful things you can do every day that can help you. Sending a small love letter by email, or even writing one out by hand, is something that could mean a lot more then you might know to your spouse. Offer to pamper your spouse with massages or gentle foot rubs after work – without expecting sex to come of it. Let your spouse sleep in late one morning while you do the extra chores, or watch the kids. Little things can mean a lot.
5. Avoid Extra Marital Affairs – Avoid them like the plague! Nothing will hurt a marriage more than having affairs with neighbors, co-workers, or friends! There is always another option, and always keep your spouse, and your spouses feelings, in mind. If you feel the urge to have such affairs, it is very important you and your spouse go through counseling together. It could truly save your marriage.
6. Take Care of You – Spend that extra bit of time on your makeup, or at the gym. It might seem like time wasted to you, but when your spouse comes home and sees you looking great, he’ll want to look at you more often – and you’ll feel better about yourself, too.
7. Communication is Key – Screaming is never okay in a relationship, and neither is getting so angry you can’t think – or see – straight, although I’m sure both happen in the majority of relationships. Sitting down together and talking calmly about the situation at hand is always better than throwing your great grandmother’s china at each other, now isn’t it?
8. Separate But Equal – it’s important to have activities and interests that you and your spouse share, but it’s just as important to have differences as well. Always respect the fact that you both won’t always like the same things, and that you can go and do things that don’t involve the other.
9. Talk to Each Other! – Communication is key in a relationship! Talk to your spouse, discuss work, friends, stress – everything! If you can’t talk to your spouse, then you have to figure out exactly why. Communication is a building block of love, and if you don’t have that, you need to fix it.
10. Go on Dates – I’m not joking – go out on dates! Find a babysitter if you have kids and go out to eat, to movies, or a nice long walk in the park. Reconnect with each other, and spend a few worry free hours with each other.


Remember, marriage is hard work – and making it work will take a lot of effort for both of you, but it can work, and you can enjoy marital bliss.


For further information, tips and advice on this subject, you might like to check out 50 Secrets of Blissful Relationships