How Compatible Are You?

All your friends say you two are a great couple, are perfect for each other, and will stay together forever. But how compatible are you, really?

There are a few key things you take into consideration when trying to figure out if you’re the perfect couple or not, especially before considering marriage.

Have you taken the time to learn about each other thoroughly? Do you know the other’s hopes? Dreams? Aspirations? If you don’t, you need to! If something in your plans for the future conflicts with those of your partner, you need to discuss this in great deal with your partner. Relationships have ended because one didn’t want children, and one did.

Is your relationship really going anywhere – and be honest, thinking of more than just sex. Are you more than friends who hang out together? Can you hold an intelligent conversation with your other? Sure, you might not quite care now, but of you’re planning to spend the rest of your life with this person, you’ll need to be able to truly talk to one another.

Okay, so in new relationships, most people tend to ignore what they perceive as ‘little’ flaws in their partners, only to find they want to strangle them when they become bigger, nagging problems. Everyone’s done it at one point or another. You have to truly take the time to get to know the other – trust me, you might just save yourself extra marital affairs, minor assaults, and affairs with neighbors, co-workers, and the like.

Face it – your relationship cannot live on sex, going out with friends, and ‘clubbing’ alone. There are layers to a person, and you have to ‘dig deep’ to really find out if you two are Mr. and Mrs. Right-For-Each-Other. You can party; it doesn’t mean you can spend the rest of your life with each other. Don’t overlook qualities you hate because of other qualities.

Fighting – Where Does Natural Bickering Become an Endless Power Struggle?
What do you two argue about? How well, truly, can you get along? In most relationships, fighting happens – it’s just a part of life.

But fighting shouldn’t happen all the time, and not about every little thing. Does it seem like your relationship has turned into a constant struggle for power, or control? Relationships aren’t supposed to be like this – you’re supposed to love and care for one another, with the occasional argument, not the other way around.

One cannot always be in control, because a relationship – or in turn, a marriage – isn’t about power, control, or being more important then the other. You’re partners, which mean that you’re equals. There is no greater, no lesser.

In the end, only the both of you, through getting to know the other inside and out, can decide if you’re right for each other. It’s not something that should be decided after only one day, and shouldn’t be taken lightly. But you can find someone you’re very attracted to, and have great compatibility with – it may not come as soon as you wish it to, but it will come.



For further information, tips and advice on this subject, you might like to check out 1000 Questions For Couples